Friends with Benefits

“You can’t be friends with the opposite sex without sleeping with them.”

Today I will be looking at the above quote that I have been hearing a lot over the past few years and if there is one thing that I have noticed is that it tends to be coming from those that are a lot younger than me. I know that we live in a country(UK) that tends to not talk too much about sex and that as we are now talking more about sex this quote has come about, but I do believe that this quote is a little over the top.

Friends is a word that get thrown about quite a bit these days but the bottom line is that friends are people that you can talk to and know inside and out without any motives behind your or their actions, while those that you work with and don’t know that well are what I would like to call acquaintances and tend to be the ones that you have a little attraction to and just end up having a one night stand with them or leaving things the way they are.

In reality if every male and female were sleeping with their friends then there wouldn’t be any long term relationships and because of this I have some theories as to why people believe that it okay for us to be sleeping with are friends and why this quote has appeared from that.

One of those theories is that both parties are involved in a long term relationship with someone else and that they have become bored with their relationship and have decided that sleeping with a friend or someone that they have become attracted too for a “no strips attached” relationship is away in which they are trying to spice up their love life’s.

My second theory is that someone may not have the confidence or feels like they lack the experience in the bedroom and believe that sleeping with a close friend will help them.

The one thing that tends to get over looked when friends sleep with friends is those that get caught in the middle of it all, I know that I have been luck mainly because If I have gotten bored with someone I have had the ball to say that the relationship is over and start looking for someone else and that is what you should being doing in the first place.

Now the part that tends to get over looked the most when people say that they are sleeping with their friends is the part about being attracted to someone in the first place. You don’t just sleep with someone because you want to sleep with them because deep down there is something inside you telling you that you are attracted to them and because of that you want to sleep with them. Yes I am also aware that as you get to know the opposite sex more sometimes you get feeling for said person and you do act on it.

If you are in ever of this two positions then I believe that you may want to your evaluate yourself and your relationship. If you are sleeping with someone for the experiences then at least you are being honest with yourself but at the same time are you sleeping you need to be asking yourself are you attracted to them.

So can you have a friendship with the opposite sex without sleeping with them, yes you can because a true friend is someone that is close to you that can help you when you need them. If you are sleeping with a friend then it means one of two things, one being that you have feeling with them and don’t want to admit that you want a relationship with them and second that you want to screw them just because you have some kind of attraction too them.

Until next time