What brought us together?

As you are all aware we have now entered the month of February and with that come the Hallmark day of all days, Valentine’s Day. Now I have nothing against this day and why should I because I do believe that having one day a year in which we can celebrate our loved ones is a good idea, come on the Japanese do it twice a year with February the 14^th and March the 14^th, (I will get into this later on in the month.)

As I have said a moment ago I have nothing against this month or Valentine’s Day and to a point I can sometimes find myself trying to be or am a hopeless romantic and in the past I have done some really weird shit to back this up.

A good example of this would be that I used to have a very large group of woman friends and that one year when I didn’t have anyone to share this day with I agreed to work the late night. What I found out a few days before was that everyone I was working with that night were also single, so to make them feel better I decided to by two dozen red roses and give all the single ladies two roses each to hopefully make them feel better (and before you ask no I didn’t have any ulterior motive behind it and yes you can have a lady friend and not have benefits with them and yes I will come to this all this by the end of this month.)

So as you can see I have done some weird shit over the years some of it I am proud of and some of it not, but this is not the reason we are here today.

Back at the beginning of January I ended up have a conversation with a couple of people from work who both said to me that they were thankful to god for their husband and their partner. Now at the time I wanted to write a blog about this but then decided to wait for two reason, one begin that I was going to cover relationship topics on my blog in February and that it would be a good jumping of spot for the rest of the month and second I wanted to make sure that I knew what my counter argument was going to be before I rushed in and wrote this, so let’s get started.

First of all, I have no problem with anyone’s religion as long as it is not thrust in my face all the time and second when it comes to love we as a species and may animals only have two reason to be in love with someone, first and most importantly is to reproduce and second for pleasure. With those out of the way let’s get to the details of why I believe god has nothing to do with you ending up being with the person you are with at the moment.

Now the first thing that comes to most of us when we are looking to date the opposite sex is what that person looks like and I believe this is the biggest contributing fact as to the reason why we end up approach someone in the first place. If you take a moment to thing about this you will realise that in your head you have already gotten a picture of what you would like a woman to look like (and no not the celebrate you want to date).

For argument sack you are looking for some that has nice eyes, good cheek bones, a big smile, long or short hair (add your own colour), a rough height, build and of course bust.

With that information along you already know what you are looking for before you even leave the house so all you have to do is fill in the blanks and go up to someone that you like the look of. I am fully aware that there is more to a woman than looks and I would be a testament to this because I have always believe that forty percent of the reason you go out with someone is because of their looks and the other sixty percent is down to intelligence and what you two have in common. The problem is that you can’t judge a book by its cover because you can’t go out with someone just on looks and that it takes time to build any kind of relationship with someone.

The other thing that you have to take into consideration is that for any relationship to work you have to put a lot of effect and work into it on both sides. While doing this you sometimes discovery that the two of you are not compatible and because of this the relationship ends and you go your own ways.

So I now come back to my original comment about having been in a conversation with two colleagues and them saying that they were thankful to god for their husband or partner because at the end of the day god has nothing to do with the reason as to why you two have met and the way in which the relationship turned out because it all comes down to what you as a person are attracted to and how much work or a like you are together that makes the relationship last.

Before I end today I should point out that media tries to tell us what good looks like and to me this is wrong, we all have different type of woman or man that we like the look off and because of this the media should show stop trying to impose its views on us. So if you are going out looking for the right woman or man for you then please find someone that you like the look of and not someone else trying to tell you what you should be looking for.

Until next time.