Does this feel right?

I was going to write a blog about nostalgia this week but after hearing some very funny news about someone I used to know I decided that I would write a blog about getting engaged to someone. Now the news came from an old friend of mine who decided to post on their Facebook page that she was now engaged to her boyfriend, now normally I wouldn’t think much of it but without going into too much detail about this couple it got me thinking about when is it a good time to ask someone to marry you?

Now as I said I am not going into too much detail about them but what I will say is this, is it right to agree to marry your first true boyfriend or girlfriend, is it alright to marry someone you don’t know very well and when is the best time to ask the question? Now before I start answering these questions I do know that some couples are lucky enough to choice the right person to begin with and are able to have a very happy life together but I also know that there are those that do get married to their first love and end up getting divorced later down the line. Now you could say that because of my past relationship here I am a little bias about what I have just said and what I am about to say next, but I do believe that for any relationship to work you needed to know what you like and dislike in a relationship and how to handle any problems that could appear while in the relationship. I am also aware like a lot of people that there is no way that we can learn everything we need to know about the art of relationships from when we start seeing the opposite sex and that every day we are with them we learn something new about them, ourselves and what we want in a relationship. So getting engaged to your first love isn’t the best thing to do in my opinion because you are only basing everything you know on that one person, which nicely links into the second part of my question.

Should you marry someone you don’t really know? My answer to that question would be no, due to the fact that if you don’t really know someone how will you be able to trust them. I have noticed throughout any of my relationships, that you will not be able to learn everything you want to know about that person straight away and that the longer you are together the more they well open up to you and the more you will be able to trust them.

Now the final part is when is the right time to pop the question? Based on what I have heard and seen from other couples they have gotten engaged from six months to ten years and above (This blog will go on forever if I decided to talk about Ten years and above, but that is for another time). Now based upon my past experience I believe that no couple should be get engaged within the first two years of their relationship because this is what they call the honeymoon period and second you have yet to experience living with your other half.

Now I am going to make myself as crystal clear as I can here, I do not mean living together in your boyfriend/girlfriends parents house or staying a few nights round your partners place but actuality living with each other for twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week and three hundred and sixty-five days a year. If you haven’t even done that then you can’t say you really know that person because what you will find and I can vouch for this with my previous girlfriends is that if they stay a few weeks round your place you make sure everything is perfect. Now if you are living with them, day in and day out your true colours start to appear after a few months which at that point you will know if they are for you or not.

Now If you can comfortable says that you know this person inside and out and that you have spend over a year living together in your own house then I believe that you are then at least ready to start thinking about getting engaged. If you haven’t met these points within the first two years then don’t worry about it because for a relationship to truly work it is going to take time and patience from both parties.

Now if you haven’t already guessed by reading this blog, the couple in question haven’t met what I believe to be the correct criteria for getting engaged because they have been dating for less than two years and haven’t even lived with one another by themselves within that time frame, but as I have said a few times since I started writing this blog this is what I believe and not everyone has the same view as I do.

All I can say is that I wish them both all the best and I do hope that it does work out for the both of them.

Until next time