Did I Miss the Memo?

The reason for today’s blog I have begun to notice a trend as of late that sees people that are younger than me, the same age as me or even older than me all getting married, engaged or even thinking about having children. I know when it comes to those that are older than me are more likely to get married or have a child compared to those that are younger than me due to the fact that they have had the chance to experience the world that we live in but those of the same age as me or younger I find it really hard to understand it.

Now before I go on you mind be asking where am I getting my information from, well it is from Facebook whenever I decide to check it. Facebook is one of the biggest social media websites out there at the minute but due to a lot of the chances that have been going on with it as of late I have begun to us it a lot less nowadays to the point of me using it two to three times a week but I am digressing so let’s get back on to topic.

So that you can better understand the problem I have I will take a few minutes to give you some of my personal information. I am at the tail end of my twenties currently in a relationship that yes I can see it going somewhere in the future but I feel that I am not ready in any shape or form to go down that path of having children or even thing about getting married yet. I also believe that if you want to get married or have children you should at least have the following three things. Have a well paying job that you enjoy, own your own place and be with someone that you truly love.

With that said I just can’t understand why some people are in such a ruse to get married or to have a child when they don’t even have any of what I have said above. How can you marry someone when you aren’t living on your own together, why would you keep a baby that you can’t afford or even less from someone that you had sex with once?

I understand that money doesn’t bring happiness but at the same time wouldn’t you want the best life possible for your child to grow up in or even to be able to spend time alone with your partner when you are together? I could understand someone going down this path to start a family or getting married if they have at least one maybe two of what I have said earlier but to have none of them I just can’t understand.

You could try to break it down by saying that I am old fashioned or even that I am afraid to commit to any relationship due to what has happened in my past but what did I miss that everyone else found and understood better than me?

All I seem to be doing at the moment is ask more questions about this than me giving any answers to them due to the that I just don’t have any. All I can hope for is that those that have decided to go down this path don’t end up getting devoiced or having a kid that is out of control.

So until Next time.

Ignorant world

When writing blog’s I try to stay away from any rants that I want to go on because I believe that some of my message or help might get lost with the rant but I believe that for once I may have to rant about this topic, the topic in question is S&B day and for those unaware of what this is I will take some time to talk about it and explain what I have wrong with it.

S&B day is widely known as Steak and Blowjob Day and this is where women give there other halves a Steak for Dinner and a Blowjob for dessert. This day was created by a fucking idiot called Tom Birdsey who used all forms of multimedia to get his message out that men should be given something back for all their hard work for Valentine’s Day (I should make the point that if you felling like that then why are you dating in the first place?).

If you haven’t already guessed I dislike everything about this on multiply levels and below are my reason and explanations.

1. It demeans women

The reason that I say this is because of the following quote that can be found on the Facebook page “Men work extremely hard to satisfy their lovers on Valentine’s Day”. To me this implies that woman should pay men back for everything they have done for them on Valentine’s Day. To me this is a narrow-minded and doesn’t take into account the bigger picture which leads me into the following point.

2. You shouldn’t be showing your love for one another once a year

As I have said multiply times when I have spoken about relationships in past blog, I have said that if you are with someone then you should be showing one another that you love one another even if that is by saying that you love them, complementing them in the way they look and what you like about them, doing something that the other is not expecting or just by sleeping with one another. And this is where I ask the question to Tom Birdsey (the idiot that created the whole thing), have you ever taken the time to look at your past relationships and asked yourself have you done what I have outlines above or has your partner done something similar to you?

3. Have you taken a moment to see what your other half did for you on Valentine’s Day?

Now a lot of place will make out that Valentine’s Day is all about the man doing something for the woman but if you look around and listen to people around you, you will find out that it is not that black and white anymore. Yes men do treat their other half to something on Valentine’s Day but at the same time woman have also done something for the men in their life too. Examples of this have been women going out buying new outfit and lingerie for that evening to spice thing up or getting them something in return. For me I believe that Tom Birdsey didn’t take any of these on board when creating his Steak and a Blowjob Day because to me I get the impression that he believes that women should be giving this to him anyway.

4. And there is another way to show your love other than this day.

And lastly we come to what I would call the crown jewel of this all, if Tom Birdsey had done any research before he went to the media and asked for the world to follow him in this fucking demeaning day he would have seen that there are countries around the world that follow up Valentine’s Day with another day which is twenty eight days later on March the 14^th. A good example of this is over in Japan where they have White Day, where Men that have received gift on Valentine’s Day return the favour on March 14^th.

If you haven’t already guessed it, I believe that this whole Steak and a Blowjob Day should be forgotten about completely and my reasons have been listed above but at the same time those that agree with this day need to really look at what they are doing in their relationship to beginning with. If you really want to do something after Valentine’s Day then all I can suggest is that you follow up that day with something that you have planned for both of you or even go as far as doing everything that I have listed in point 2.

So until Next time.

Showing your love on Valentine's Day

Today is Valentine's Day and like most countries around the world each one has its own way of celebrate the day. A good example of this would be my last years post that talked about the way in which the Japanese celebrate today but that is not the reason that I am here talking to you about Valentine's Day, no today I want to talk about what I have experienced and what I have seen when it comes to Valentine's Day.

To start with I will begin with those that dislike the day; a lot of people have said that they do not believe in today because they believe it to be nothing more than a Hallmark day (card companies just created the day to make lot of money). Yes I once believed that and I can also understand why people might think that, they could be thinking this because one they could have had a disappointing Valentine's Day before or maybe they could have planned sure a nice day for the person they love and a week before they could have been dumped. Those are just some of the examples that I can come up with but this one could also be linked into what I am able to talk about next.

Next is one that I have seen happen a lot over time and one that is to dump or end a relationship with their significant other today. I can only believe that this is the coward's way out of a relationship because some people believe that today gives them the excuses to tell someone else that that have had their eye on for some time that they really like them and that they want to end their current relationship to start this one with them (here's a hit, go grow yourself a pair of balls and tell them when you first get the felling that you don't want to be with them). If you haven't already guessed it already this is the one that I hate the most and is one that I can say that I have never done before and have no intention of doing because if you feel that you don't want to be in a relationship at the time don't wait until today say it.

Lastly I want to talk about the one which is more likely to happen today and that is we're two people wake up and express their love for one another on this day or when they get home after work. This is the one that I hope a lot of people will experience today because it will show how much you love one another and how much though you have given the day (unless you have said otherwise). Now the drawback to this is a double edge sword because it could tick every box that you were hoping for and more while at the same time it may not come any were near what you were expending (I know that this can happened to me before) which could also be linked to what I said a moment ago about not liking today.

The thing to remember when it comes to Valentine's Day is that planning in advance is the key to how well a day like today goes and showing your love on just one day a year is not good enough, you should be showing your significant other that you love them or want to be with all the time

I hope that you all have a good Valentine's Day and until next time.